So, you’re ready to propose. You’ve got the location, the speech, maybe even a playlist (respect). But wait—how do you find out her ring size without totally giving yourself away?

No worries. There are stealthy ways to do this, and I’m about to break them down for you.

1. The “accidental” jewellery store visit

If you can, start early—months in advance. Next time you’re out shopping, casually suggest stopping by a jewellery store “just to look.” Maybe you pretend to be interested in a watch. Maybe you mention a friend is thinking of proposing. Whatever your cover story, use this chance to get her to try on rings. Then, make a mental note of the size (or better yet, snap a discreet pic of the tag).

2. The trusted friend setup

Find a friend or sibling of hers who’s good at keeping secrets. Have them pretend they’re shopping for a ring and invite her along. At some point, they can say, “Hey, try this on! I need to see how it looks on a hand like mine.” Boom—info secured.

3. The ring heist (not really)

If she already wears rings on that finger (left hand, fourth finger—very important), “borrow” one when she’s not paying attention. Trace the inside onto paper or use a caliper to measure it. Just make sure it’s a ring she actually wears regularly; fingers change size throughout the day!

5. When in doubt, go a little bigger

If all else fails, go slightly up in size. It’s always easier to make a ring smaller than to enlarge it.

6. The honest approach

If you and your partner love making big decisions together, why not make the ring one of them? Instead of guessing, consider my Bespoke Ring Service. This is where we design a completely custom ring—one that reflects her personality, your love story, and everything in between. The process starts with filling out a short form, so I can understand your budget and preferences before we bring her dream ring to life.

There you go—no more guesswork, just a perfect proposal moment waiting to happen. You’ve got this!